Why I just can’t get enough of Kim Kardashian…

Abi Moustafa

Before you judge me, I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one. Now I’ve always been a bit of a pop culture junkie and often go through stages with my obsessions, God knows I’ve had more than a few. But I just can’t shake my attachment to Miss Kimmy Kardashian. She’s beautiful yes, she’s famous yes, but there are so many other female celebs that tick those same boxes yet they just don’t do it for me.

As most IT girls these days Kim has endured  modelling career, her own reality TV show, singing career (albeit not long-lived), and not to mention a number of advertisements she’s been featured in from weight-loss programs to cosmetic ranges. The woman is a powerhouse, even if she is ditzy as. She’s managed to release four fragrances within the past two years. I won’t lie, even though I pride myself as a feminist, I usually find something quirky about the people I obsess about even if they aren’t too intellectual. The thing is Kim is actually pretty boring.  And I mean this in the nicest of ways. Admittedly JLo isn’t exactly a scholar, but I’ve loved her for years merely due to her “keep it real” attitude and her talent. In fact JLo is in a league of her own, as people in industry like to call a triple threat, what with her superior acting, dancing and singing skills! But wait a minute, Kim can’t sing… I mean she tried, bless her she tried, but it just didn’t go down well. However I’m curious to find out if she really is more than a pretty face. Initially she was famous THAT sex tape. Which makes sense, she has sex appeal. But what is it about her that keeps me following her twitter? Or constantly clicking her links on Fb?

Unfortunately I haven’t figured it out just yet, but I’m on a quest and I shall let you know as soon as I find out. But I can say this, the woman is a chameleon, she’s so bloody versatile! One minute she can be dressed in a funky coloured blazer, and the next she’s in Old Hollywood mode.

Exhibit A:

Exhibit B:

Anyone with a great stylist can do that you say? Possibly, but hey I give credit when credit is due. The girl works out! To be honest I keep asking myself the age old question, “Why do women judge other women?” Because we sure know it’s a reality and we do in fact dress for other woman more than we do for men. I think the partial reason I find her so alluring is the fact that she works hard, most celebs pride themselves on doing Pilates or eating little to no carbs. But Kim thrives off exercise, the fact that she works so hard kind of makes me feel a little better as I can relate. Who knows maybe it’s the 11 year old fat girl in me that is saying this but I am absolutely thrilled to share that I have officially jumped on the Kimmy K loving bandwagon. Okay that was a lie, that might’ve happened about two years ago, but in all seriousness, I don’t see this obsession fading anytime soon.

So lovlies, do you agree with me? Or am I simply overrating her? Do you have an obsession of your own? If so, let me know, I’m interested in getting some feedback for an upcoming article.

Many Thanks,

Abi xx

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* Images courtesy of kimkardashian.celebuzz.com

• Miley Cryus : Graphic photos leaked of Miley in a see through top, smoking a bong (apparently a prescribed drug, not marijuana).
• Vanessa Hudgens : MANY leaked photos of the starlet full frontal.
• Rihanna : Also has had leaked photos of starlet.

Say It Ain’t Valentine’s Day already?

By Maya Srebro

Before I begin, let me make it clear that I’m not going to base this feature on my love for Valentine’s day because I have received a crazy amount of gifts and cards from multiple unnamed men (Please note : I’m single, not that I’m cut or anything…)

Honestly though, the 14th of February is not always about rose petals and expensive wine, what with the thousands of men who cringe at the thought of getting it wrong, and don’t even get me started on the women who pretend they don’t want anything from their loved ones. Yes the same women who hint that a nice Tiffany and Co Bracelet would make her life complete… Okay, okay I know I’m sounding like a bit of and hater, or possibly a desperado who enjoys ranting about how much I hate Valentine’s Day, but this year I’m exploring the true meaning of Valentine’s Day.

WARNING: The following may seem like a history lesson, but it is not… so sit tight as take you on this journey with me.

Valentine’s Day was named after Saint Valentine, a roman bishop dating back to the third century. Basically, the Emperor at the time (Emperor Claudius II) declared that single men were much stronger and focused in the bids of forming a powerful army. Thus, he made marriages illegal. Pretty much a love-scrooge. Therefore, Saint Valentine went against this movement and began performing marriages in secret. What an absolute sweetheart, if only he existed today, I probably would have tried to dazzle him with my wits. Anyways, once the Emperor found out about Saint Valentines betrayal, he gave him the death penalty and Saint Valentine was stoned to death. Quite sad really

Let me bring you back into the 21st century, when we are exposed to a commercialized holiday. A holiday when I think about it was meant to be about gifts and cute/ corny little cards. Now I’m left thinking, what is the true essence of Valentine’s Day? It isn’t about gifts (hence the events that were explained in paragraph two.. LOL). The true essence of this day is to express your LOVE for one another. Saint Valentine did what was right, he did it for love. Even though he probably knew he’d have ultimate death in his pathway, he was so passionate about real love that he risked his life for it, and ultimately it put an end to it. *screams* IN THE NAME OF LOVE! *Waits for audience to respond with an AWWW*

Saint Valentines spirit, passion, courage and dedication was absolutely beautiful. You know, the power of love, it seems to be misguided by today’s youth. What is Valentine’s Day in the 21st century without roses, cards, chocolate and gifts? It’s turned in to a day to remind someone how much you love them, which is a good thing; however it’s turned into a businessman’s dream. With a single rose costing up to $40!

Who’s to blame though? Everyone cares. Women care because all their friends will be questioning them, “So, what did he get you? And you will whisper “Oh Lindt chocolates” shyly, waiting to see the look of pity upon their face as they blurt out “Oh Em Gee, is that all?” Yeah, Valentine’s Day is a bit harsh, people will judge your relationship in terms of what you get for Valentine’s Day… not on the fact you both sipped wine (or chugged down a bottle of Corona) then looked into each other’s eyes and said “I Love You”. But remember, they weren’t there the week before when he stopped by your house at 1am with two coffees and banana bread in hand to ensure you were eating and took a break from your thesis writing.

At the end of the day, and I mean that literally… Valentine’s Day is truly successful. It just shows how many people are in love these days and it’s good to see that what Saint Valentine was truly fighting for, ended up in his favour. ***

Ok enough sweet talk, next feature will be on how to have your revenge on your EX! Ways to egg his house and all…LOL kidding, remember people… I BRING YOU LOVE.

****Please ignore the fact that the divorce rate has jumped 20% over two centuries AND that romance is dead AND that most of us don’t get married till our late 20’s AND that deep down inside everyone has had their heart broken AND… honestly, all of this doesn’t matter, especially once you find your true love.

AND THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER?

Do you blame the Disney princesses for your high expectations of men?

By Marianne Papanikolaou

• It’s just another day, you’re walking in the forest collecting mulberries with all your animal friends singing, I know you, I walked with you once upon a dream, and suddenly… ‘Oh look!’ The man of your dreams comes and grabs you from behind and starts twirling you into his charming muscle toned arms and you begin to do the waltz…

• …You then fall madly in love, because you’re so damn beautiful and you are all he ever thinks about, heck, he even fights an evil fire breathing dragon witch for you and saves you with ‘true loves first kiss’.

• Now, I am not in any way saying these films are bad, they are my most treasured childhood memories. My mother had to buy me ‘Cinderella’ on DVD for my 18^th because my VHS version was so trashed, maybe because I watched it 15,4566,67654 times, but needless to say these fairytales had an impact on us. What exactly that is, I don’t know… but every girl wants to find her prince.

• Now all these gorgeous girls, Belle, Jasmine, Aurora, Cinderella, Snow white(What kind of a name is that really?), Pocahontas and Mulan they all did crazy things for their men, which in turn gives us a moral to each of their stories.  I mean, every accomplishment begins with a decision to try, these ladies fell in love with beasts, street rats and warriors, sure most of their men were son’s of Kings with great lands and had the castle to accommodate, but in reality ‘love’ doesn’t conquer all.

• We’ve all been through messy break ups, that empty feeling of not knowing what’s ahead of you. Its ugly, and nothing could have ever prepared us for that feeling of shallow emptiness as kids. The closest thing to heart break when you were 8 was that feral smelly boy in your class snapped all your crayons!

• It’s funny, we can still watch these animated films now (well I can), and get that happy high of escaping  the paradox of reality for an hour and ten minutes watching Ariel and Eric get happily married on their ship while daddy King Triton shoots fireworks from his trident. In truth though… a mermaid and a human can’t get married without a few bumps along the way, much like people with different religions or sexualities cant. Not that they can’t,  but because in the eyes of other people its looked down upon. King Triton destroyed all Ariel’s belongings when he found out about her and ‘the human’.  If your dad blew up your room, would you keep talking to that boy? It’s tricky isn’t, but Ariel got away with it, which in one sense always gives us hope.

• Walt Disney said it himself, Cinderella was accused of being naive and weak character but “She believed in dreams, all right, but she also believed in doing something about them.  When Prince Charming didn’t come along, she went over to the palace and got him.”

• Yeah, these lovely ladies may have given us a high expectation on what to expect from men, but they also taught us a lot of other important things too, from Snow White’s kindness and caring for her dwarves to Belle’s unconditional love for her father. It’s more than just a love story, they have depth and that’s why these fairytales have been passed down from generation to generation.

• Remember the question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” for a lot of us the answer may have been a Princess….BUT the decision is yours now… Do you still want to be a princess? As corny as it may sound, most of you do deserve a prince, as long as you treat him like one too. Balance is the key to a healthy relationship, and even if it doesn’t work out, don’t give up hope. Shoot for the moon because even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.

• So don’t stress for that hopeful day when your beloved Prince comes riding down your street with his chariot and horse, I mean Porsche Carerra of course (don’t forget them high expectations), screaming his love for you so the whole world can hear.

• It will come eventually and in the words of the Fairy Godmother, “Even miracles take a lil time.”

• Here’s one for the Boy’s…. You got no chance either !!

DISAPPEARING ACT 101 :

Friends M.I.A (Missing In Action)

Maya Srebro

Ok, so I’m pretty sure this next situation I’m about to delve into has happened to all of us.. Whether you’re a guy or a girl, we’ve all been in that situation when your friend seems to be ‘missing in action’. Now, this isn’t simply because they are sick or busy… well actually it does if your talking about love sick and busy with a significant other. Come on, don’t you notice how at times one of your best friends no longer sees you as much, talk to you as much and practically ditch every plan you have made ever since they got into that relationship… Yep, I’m sorry to have to be the one to tell you this but it is in fact a case of “Whipatitis”.

Whipatitis is a common occurrence among both females and males aged from 18 – 22. (Google it… or don’t since I clearly made it up). The subject becomes so drawn to that significant other that they replace the time that they use to spend with certain friends with that of the other species. Now, I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, we obviously have to spend time with our new acquaintance but I’m talking about when it becomes really bad, you know the “I haven’t seen you in three weeks” bad.

It’s sort of sad in a way, the fact that your friend no longer can find time for you because you would think nothing can change your friendship but what we have to realize is how important one is in ones life. I mean, if my best friend ditched me for three weeks for a guy she just got into a relationship with then I’d be all like “Awww hell naw girl you can’t do me like that” following with the snap of my fingers… I’ve always wanted to do that (But really, when any lady cuts me off while I’m driving I always do it.. LOL). Ok, back to serious mode. I think it really depends on the friend. I know in my situation my best friends are a big part of my world and even though, as stupid as they may be at the time (Blame it on Whipatitis) I stuck it out for them, I was there whenever they needed me to complain, to listen, to secretly want to upper cut them for dogging you all those times and it worked out. She eventually realized her mistake and was thankful she had a best friend that will always there. -Sings- We’re the three best friends that anyone could have.. We’re the three best friends that anyone could have and we’ll never ever ever ever leave each other. Hahaha! (For those of you who live in a cave, it’s from The Hangover) … (and for those of you who live in the sewers, The Hangover is a movie).

In the end, some people are important to us and are worth it, others aren’t. However if your bestie has nabbed him or herself a geniunely good catch then they should realise that they (your bestfriend) is spending too much time with them away from her/his friends, they should encourage them. (Babe/Bub/Hottie/Aye You.. You haven’t seen the boys/girls in a while, why don’t you go out with them?) Now, out doesn’t have to mean Kings Cross for all those screaming “NOOOO” at the computer screen, but it shouldn’t matter where. What matters are the people in your life, the important ones ..Many boyfriends/girlfriends come and go, and many stay for a long time, but real friendship is meant to be there for you at all times, especially when that boyfriend/girlfriend breaks your heart, your friends are there to break their nose.. *Note – sixandthecity.com.au OR any person(s) associated with it DO NOT promote violence.

So, even though your best friend may be missing in action, If they are worth it, don’t let your friendship become M.I.A too because you never know when Whipatitis might strike you, and you need your besties there to pull you out of your nauseating romantic bubble.

Perfect shoe, perfect beau!

Is picking the perfect man as easy as picking the perfect shoe?

When this idea came to me it was like when God appeared to Moses except slightly less dramatic. At that moment in time I thought I had found the solution to one of our most twisted, and confusing, adventures. Yep, you guessed it; how to find Mr. Right instead of Mr. Right now. You are all probably reading this and thinking “Yeah right Allanna, You have succeeded where so many else have failed before,” but through extensive research and surveys among ten women, I truly believe that I, your humble fashion director, have found the answer to your most pressing question.

See, like most situations in life everything can be boiled down to a simple equation; whether it be wearing black plus brown and it never going down, or if you’re wearing blue and green something must always be worn in between. The same goes for finding your perfect match; once adding up all the different characteristics and qualities that you are looking for it should equal Mr. Perfect. Just like shoe shopping.

I know it is extremely easy to get sidetracked, but ladies, eyes must be kept on the prize. Think of it this way; when you go shoe shopping, for most of us, it’s as if we are in a trance mesmerized by the endless styles, colours, materials and fit of all the glorious shoes. When looking for a man the same thoughts should be running through your head. I simply think it’s that easy,  so I have compiled a little ‘how to’ list below for your reading pleasure. Some of you may not agree and some may think that I am the answer to your prayers.  Whatever your view is just remember that he is out there and just like the perfect Louboutin, you will find him.

When picking the most perfect, most gorgeous shoe, the first thing that I make sure I do is shop around. This is extremely important as there are so many different shoes waiting to be picked up, caressed and tried on. So the first thing you do is just look, DO NOT buy anything yet, even though those Tony Biancos are staring at you with their gorgeous leather soles and perfect peep toes  just keep looking. The same goes for men obviously you’re not going to marry the first man you see, are you? I should hope not! So look around, go to different places meet every type of man out there and from there you will be able to narrow your search.

Try, try, try before you buy. This is somewhat of a mantra that was instilled in me since I was a little girl starting at a pair of glittery Mary- Janes. They looked perfect and the moment I tried them on I just knew they weren’t for me, not only because my mum said that I couldn’t have them, but also because they hurt my feet. As I got older I always told myself when shopping try everything on! So, when looking for the perfect man the same concept should be applied. I am not telling you to sleep with every guy you meet to make sure that they are everything you are after, but date everyone (minus serial killers and the homeless) because you just never know ,upon first glance you could be led to thinking he is Mr. Perfect with his broad shoulders and chiselled jaw line, but after that third date his incessant whinging and talking with his mouth full of food could be the deal breaker.

The next thing that pops into my head when buying a pair of shoes is the price. Now I know that if it is the perfect shoe then you wouldn’t care if it cost you a whole month’s rent. But ladies, we must remember to live within our means. The same goes with men, obviously I am not alluding to you paying for a date, but time is money and you need to figure out  whether this man that you are dating is worth the amount of time you spend with him, or on the other hand whether he wants to spend time with you. This is where many relationships tend to fizzle out, whether in the dating stages or even in marriage because neither party made it clear from the beginning as to how much time or how little time they were going to put into the relationship.

Congratulations! If you have made it to this next point it means that you have weeded out the shoes (and guys) that weren’t the perfect fit and you are now left with a select few that all could work. But you only need one. So walk around in each of the shoes for a while see how they go, do you think they will last? In terms of men this is what I call non exclusive serious dating or NESD for short.  Say you have five men that you are interested in; date all of them for a while, but make sure they know about each other otherwise things could get ugly. And, don’t freak out too much yet, it’s not that serious but this way you are able to spend more time with each man and really get to know them.

The next step ties into the one above. When you are walking around in the shoes make sure they fit perfectly, you do not want any gaping at the heel or squishing in the toes. The same concept should be applied to those few men that made the cut. You do not want somebody that will make you uncomfortable in any way so keep weeding girl because you’re getting closer.

Once you have narrowed the shoes down to at least three then the real challenge begins. Put each pair on and stare at yourself in the mirror. How do they look?  How are they built? Italian leather or made in China? Which do you prefer? How will others react to them? Will I wear them again? The same goes with men and no I do not mean stand in front of a mirror with each potential boyfriend and stare at yourself, but ask yourself the question do we suit? Mentally and physically are we a match? Will my family and friends get along with him? Will he last the distance? If your answer is yes to all of these questions then CONGRATULATIONS you have found him – Mr. Right and hopefully this time there will be no nasty surprises like a heel break, or an ugly scuff on the side. If you weren’t so lucky to answer yes then do not fret, all this means is that there is more shopping to be done.
Happy Hunting.

Life as an Asexual…

In a world where girls claim they’re the next Carrie, Samantha, Miranda or Charlotte and the gay mates profusely fighting over whether they’re the real life Standford or Anthony… what happens to the girl who doesn’t swing for either team sexually? She finds a way to express her very own Sex and the City character. Let’s call her Nicole, she’s a shoe obsessed handbag loving Asexual.

WTF is Asexuality?

Asexuality as an orientation is defined by no sexual attraction to either gender.
Meet Rebecca, a 27 year old Asexual, who is currently studying a double degree and works as a casual babysitter in Sydney.
How she discovered her sexuality

“I was 24, had a steady boyfriend, and made some friends – one of whom at the time was asexual. We were talking about the forums we administrated and she showed me the Asexual Visual and Educational Network (AVEN) – it was the first time I had considered a different view about sex and relationships. I went a bit weird on the boyfriend because I was trying to define myself, and he always wanted stuff but I just never felt up for it.”

It’s not just a phase!

“I haven’t always known the words for it, but I always knew the way I viewed relationships and sex wasn’t the same as everyone else.”
Rebecca had her first relationship at 16 with a boy in another state who was two years her junior, and he, like most Heterosexual boys always wanted more than she wanted to give… “I was happy holding hands, kissing and being cute and innocent. After almost two years of going out, just before my 18th birthday, I was hanging out with him at his place when everyone else in my year was at year 12 graduation – it had never occurred to me that he was going to want more than what we had…I had already freaked at him when he had tried stuff. I was at his place for a week, and less than a week after I got home I broke up with him – I couldn’t handle it.” However Rebecca ensures that not all asexual are virgins. “That’s not to say I’ve never had sex.”

You can’t “Look Asexual”

Despite the improper stereotypes, Asexuals don’t look deformed or grossly unattractive. They’re just like any other person roaming the streets, in fact according to a study conducted by Anthony Bogaert, a psychologist and human sexuality expert at Brock University in St. Catherines, Ontario one in one hundred people roaming our streets are Asexual.
Rebecca likes to keep people guessing, “Most people who have met me a couple of times would never suspect I’m asexual. I walk, talk, breathe, and dress like everyone else – I make dirty comments, I hit on people, I’ve had plenty of boyfriends, I like relationships and being close to people. I don’t see sex as gross or anything… I just don’t look at people and think of them in a sexual way.

Two types of Asexuals:

Asexuals can vary from the hardcores who have never considered having sex to those who just don’t find it a priority until they have built-up a strong emotional bond with someone they trust. Most Asexuals identify themselves as either indifferent or repulsed, depending on their view of sex. “I see myself as indifferent because I could take it or leave it, it isn’t important to me,” says Rebecca.

Honey… have you seen my sex drive?

“A lot of my hetero friends tell me that how I see sex is similar to them – but most sexual people have a sex drive 100% of the time. They may not find all people they come across attractive, but they have a drive nonetheless. For me, the drive rarely turns up – and if it does, it only ever turns up after I’m emotionally attached to someone. This is what Asexuals define as semi-asexual. So I guess that’s how I see myself these days, but there are a lot of Asexuals who don’t have a drive at all.

As the moderator for the Australian Asexual Awareness website Rebecca says that it’s quite common for Asexuals to masturbate. “There are even Asexuals who have a drive, but it isn’t directed at anyone in particular – they don’t want sex either, they just get urges, they have to ‘sort out’ so to speak.”

How did you come out?

“My family found out because I was on the forums, although it was more between mum and me.”
Even though her mother was aware of her sexuality, most people (including her father) found out about Rebecca’s sexuality on TV.

In 2009 she decided to participate in a featured news story as an interviewee on Triple J’s youth variety show Hack. “When I was on Triple J’s hack, mum and dad sat down and watched it. So did a few other family members – and after all my advertising it on face book, a lot of people who had known me for years and years came to me and said they saw it, and they thought it was important and applauded for going on TV and giving it a go,” says Rebecca.

Despite being a Gen-Y-er, Rebecca found comfort and support in her friendship circle, she insists her friends have known for a few years now and it didn’t really bother them, she says “they just shrugged at me and said they were my friends regardless.”

How asexuality liberated me:

Asexuals may be missing out in the bedroom department, but Rebecca believes she still comes out on top! (No pun intended). “The advantages of being asexual are that you are more able to separate emotional needs from sex than most other people. One of the biggest things I found out was that just because I was emotionally attracted to someone and wanted to be with someone, didn’t mean it had to lead to sex.”

As Rebecca has matured and come to terms with her sexuality she believes she’s had more respect for herself than ever before. But more importantly, she’s realised that she has the “right to whatever kind of relationship she wants with people” and she insists “it’s not up to anyone else but me and my other half to define it.”
No sex doesn’t necessarily = No kids!

Although it is common to believe that having little to no sex at all may make it harder to have children, asexuality does not prevent a person from doing so. “Asexuality doesn’t affect my plans to have children; I plan on having them biologically and naturally. Having children is definitely a priority to me!”

We’re not celibate!

Asexuality is often confused with concept of celibacy, however when one is celibate they often have the sexual attraction/drive but choose not to act on these feelings, whereas Asexuals don’t have the attraction to start with.
“People think that Asexuals don’t need to go around telling the world about asexuality – but the fact is, if we don’t, people who are Asexual and don’t realise it may spend their lives trying to fit into societies ideals of how relationships are supposed to run. And if I can help just one person work out where they fit in – even if they aren’t asexual – then I’ve done something good.”

For more information about the Asexual community checkout:
www.asexuality.org
www.asexual-awareness.org.au

To Ignore or Not to Ignore, That is the question.

One new friend request. The number one stares at you screaming the words “click on me, click on me and accept!”. Cue erratic thoughts; Is it a cute boy? Is it my stalker ex-boyfriend ? Is it my boss? What if it is a girl I don’t really like but see all the time in real life? What if it is a fake profile? What if it is Madonna?. All these questions run through your mind during the two seconds that it takes for you to click the red little box with the number one on it. So you click and.. Wait, MUM? 

The time has come. The internet and especially social media websites are NO longer just for our tech-savvy generation. Our PARENTS are becoming tech-saggy, sorry – savvy themselves! This is something many of us can’t bear to imagine. Becoming FRIENDS with your parents on Facebook? Are you kidding me? Well lucky for me and my perfect life, I had to face this issue.. with not ONE but TWO lovely parentals eager to become my Facebook buddies. At this stage, I wish I never showed them how to turn on a computer.

What did I do you ask? Well.. I couldn’t do much at this stage because a) my mother had already found my page and b) she told me she added me on Facebook and that I should accept. One problemo,  If I don’t accept her she will think I have something to hide! The only thing I could do was PREPARE myself. I pulled out the big guns and straight away DELETED my many incriminating photos.. (Incriminating in my parent’s eyes has things to do with holding a glass of champagne or kissing a gorgeous male model. Ok no, I don’t have a photo like that, though I wish I did). Once I began deleting my many “incriminating” photos I came to realise that, wait, there MUST be an easier way, I’m sure I am not the only one who has come across this and I was 100% sure that the Facebook developers would have thought of measures to prevent their parents from adding them too. So, the research began.

48% of parents say YES to adding their children on Facebook whilst 52% say NO. Darn It, my parents are a part of that 48% statistic. Looks like they may have something to hide also..

If Facebook is just an expansion of the way we communicate, is it right for us to allow our parents into this private (or more-so publicised) part of our lives. Is it the same as showing them a text message or allowing them to go through all the photos in your digital camera?.

I think at the end of the day, it comes down the both parties. I for one, accepted, only because I didn’t want them to think I had a lot to hide in my wonderful world of no parental control.

*IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT* Needed to grab your attention to let you know about a potential life changing moment when you are about to accept or reject your parents. An amazing feature of Facebook is that you can block your parents from viewing your albums and your status update. Yes, this is why I accepted them. I just blocked them from viewing all my champagne holding photos WITHOUT the male models.

Overall, communication has become so global that we forget that if our globetrotting friends sipping Cosmo’s in Cabo can reach us, our parents will eventually too. If you never want to be in my situation, try not to teach your parents how to turn on the computer. And for those whose parents already know how to then your days are numbered.

One pending friend request. What will you do?

Pictures from techyness.com

Can your EX be your NEXT?

How many times have we cringed at the word “EX”. Ex-best friend, Ex-employee and EX-Boyfriend! Please EXplain you say? Let’s just focus on the Ex-Boyfriend. Well, these types of people have mostly become a bad memory in our lives. We don’t want to see them, we can’t stand to talk about them or we are still madly in love with them (Damn you, Daniel!). This doesn’t apply in everyone’s relationships though, many people get along with their EXes and find them still in their lives on a more mutual level. But, have you ever gotten to a point where you consider getting back with your Ex? We all have. Thus the underlying question.. Can your EX be your NEXT?

Let’s explore the foundations of why you broke up in the first place. Now, this question can be ruled out straight away if you and your ex had an abusive relationship. Cheating, lying, arguments left right and centre. Obviously this is not something that can be rekindled, right? If you were like this while you were together, it just shows you cannot get along and are not right for each other. And no matter what you will still argue. Especially if you are still planning on using your whole credit card for online purchases, OH the bargains!

The following also rules out the question.

Him telling you he is gay.
Him telling you he is in love with your mother.
Him not being a real He.
Him dumping you for his pet dog.
Him wearing your favourite pair of heels.
Him hitting on your friends…A lot. Like, four times a week a lot.
Him being married.
Him STILL being married.

So, as long as your situation is not what I have mentioned above. And if it is, then lady, I feel sorry for you, but then again don’t worry; he/she wasn’t worth it anyway. Why would we go back to our ex? We excluded them from our lives because we were extremely sick of their excuses. So can the word EX be reformed into simply, Boyfriend?

In many cases, people do tend to get back with their exes because they feel as if they failed at a potentially successful relationship. But, what they don’t realise is that it was unsuccessful because it wasn’t meant to be a successful relationship. We are meant to learn from our mistakes and understand the key points in the relationship. For instance, what are the positives you like about that person, what must you have in a relationship? Once we begin to create our list, we build on what we need. Then, when it’s right. You realise that this new boyfriend of yours, is what you were waiting for.

Before we even can answer the question of if we should get back together with our ex we need to understand why we are thinking like this in the first place. Are you lonely? Is it because you can’t bear to see him move on before you, you believe in second chances, do you have grounds on why it will work this time? Each situation is different, and many people do give second chances but it is a gamble with your heart if you are not 100% on your decision.

The only thing I think about more is that, if you gave it you’re all the first time around and it didn’t work out. What are the odds it will again? No matter what we still hold those battle scars from the relationship and they will appear from time to time. “Remember the time you told me you loved me and send the same message to that Kelly girl”, Yes, those battle scars.

In the end, our Exes are our Exes for a reason. If the relationship was going to work out, it would’ve by now, and you wouldn’t be reading this wondering if it can. But, if it’s months down the track, years, many things change, people change. So, do we leave the exes to willow in our past and make room for the next best thing? Once I ask you this final question, whatever the answer is, you will think of it for the 0.001 millisecond that I ask you, and don’t lie to yourself and change the answer- you can’t think about it!

So,
Can your EX, be your NEXT?
No-Way. (For those of you who said yes, don’t forget, T&C Applies).

However, I say-
Can the EX- NEXT.

Editor’s Note.

During some follow up research I came across the quote “Love never fails”. Don’t be fooled. Love does fail! Just because it failed doesn’t mean it wasn’t love. Happy Dating Kids!

p.s Cinderella does not endorse going back to your ex!

Dare us, so we can write for YOU!

We’ve got a competition going at the moment, basically were getting people to suggest dares for us to do and then once one of us do this dare – we write about it.
So seriously, if you want to see us run through Kings Cross in our underwear (preferably Pete should do this, I’m just sayin’)
or want to just see us make an utterly and complete fool out of ourselves then let us know in the comment section below.

We’ve already got many suggestions, so the best one – will win. So far we’re thinking :

“Create a profile on a match making website, meet up with a person and go on a date with them..”

Now the theme here will be “Do men really get scared of commitment?. So whoever goes on the date will be testing the guy by extensively making it clear how much she wants children, marriage and how her name would look with his last name.

Get thinking guys! Be apart of this so you can feel like you’re the reason why we ended up a) going to jail b) being on the news OR c) getting married.